Choosing Euthanasia for your Pet

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Pet Euthanasia is a difficult issue for many people to come to grips with. For most of us, confronting this issue for our pets means confronting fear, guilt, and grief. But I believe that it's an issue we must be ready to face whenever we make a lifetime commitment to a companion animal.

Being informed and prepared is crucial. I strongly recommend that you talk to your veterinarian about pet euthanasia long before it ever becomes in issue for you and your pet. Find out about your options, make some key decisions ahead of time, and ask your vet to add this information to your pet's chart. Some questions you might consider and discuss with your veterinarian are:

• Under what circumstances should you and your vet consider pet euthanasia?

• What will your decision criteria be if and when the time comes?

• What method(s) and/or drug(s) does your veterinarian use for pet euthanasia? (See the "Resources" section below for links to sites that describe a typical euthanasia procedure).

• Do you want to be present when your pet is euthanized?

• Would you prefer a home euthanasia? Is your veterinarian willing to come to your home to euthanize your pet? If not, can s/he refer you to a vet who makes house calls?

• How do you prefer to deal with your pet's remains - burial, cremation, other?

Don't put off making these choices until you are in the middle of a crisis with your pet and are forced to have to make snap decisions while you are distraught. It won't serve you, and it won't serve your pet.

Knowing when it's time to let your pet go: Emotionally speaking, all the preparation in the world is not necessarily going to make the decision any easier when you are faced with a terminally ill or dying pet and are trying to determine if it's time to let your pet go. The decision to euthanize a pet is one of the most personal, and sometimes the most difficult, decisions a caregiver can make. It would be difficult, if not impossible, for me to suggest a "correct" way to make such a decision. I strongly believe that this is a choice that each individual must make for his or her pet.

However, if you are struggling with this decision, you might try asking yourself the following questions:

• Is my pet getting any enjoyment at all from his day to day life, or is his daily existence simply something to be endured, with no real quality of life?

• Do my pet's 'good days' still outnumber the 'bad days', or are the 'good days' rare or nonexistent?

• Is my pet in pain?

• Has my pet stopped eating and drinking?

• What is my vet's opinion?

A well-meaning piece of advice that I have heard over and over again is "your pet will let you know when it's time". Personally, I don't necessarily believe this to be the case. The following essay was written about dogs, but I believe that it applies equally to any companion animal.
 

How Do You Know When It's Time?

I don't subscribe to the idea that dogs "will let us know when it's time," at least not in any conscious sense on their part. For one thing, I've found in my years of counseling folks who have ill pets, and often accompanying them through the euthanasia process, that this notion is often interpreted in a way that puts a lot of pressure on people when they're already stressed and grief-stricken. "What if I miss the signs? He looked miserable yesterday but not today. What if I act too soon or not soon enough? How could he ever let on that he wants it to end? But maybe I'm deluding myself that he feels better than he does."

Dogs are not people. We lovingly anthropomorphize our dogs during our time together and there's no harm in that, even quite a bit of reward for both them and us. But the bottom line is that they are not people and they don't think in the way people think. (Many of us would argue that this speaks to the superiority of dogs.) These amazing beings love us and trust us implicitly. It just isn't part of their awareness that they should need to telegraph anything to us in order for their needs to be met or their well-being ensured. They trust that we, as their pack leaders, operate only in their best interest at all times. Emotional selfishness is not a concept in dogdom and they don't know how hard we sometimes have to fight against it ourselves.

Dogs also have no mindset for emotional surrender or giving up. They have no awareness of the inevitability of death as we do and they have no fear of it. It is fear that so often influences and aggravates our own perceptions when we are sick or dying and it becomes impossible to separate the fear from the actual illness after a while. But that's not the case with dogs. Whatever we observe to be wrong with our sick dogs, it's all illness. And we don't even see the full impact of that burden until it's at a very advanced point, because it's a dog's nature to endure and to sustain the norm at all costs. If that includes pain, then that's the way it is. Unlike us, they have never learned that letting pain show, or reporting on it, may generate relief or aid. So they endure, assuming in their deepest doggy subconscious that whatever we abide for them is what is to be abided.

If there is a "look in the eye", or an indication of giving up, that we think we see from our beloved dogs, it isn't a conscious attitude on their part or a decision to communicate something to us. It's just an indication of how tired and depleted they are. But they don't know there's any option other than struggling on, so that's what they do. We must assume that the discomfort we see is much less than the discomfort they really feel. And we do know of other options and it is our deep obligation always to offer them the best option for that moment -- be it further intervention, or none, or the gift of rest.

From the moment we embrace these animals when they first grace our lives, every day is one day closer to the day they must abandon their very temporary and faulty bodies and return to the state of total perfection and rapture they have always deserved. We march along one day at a time, watching and weighing and continuing to embrace and respect each stage as it comes. Today is a good day. Perhaps tomorrow will be, too, and perhaps next week and the weeks or months after. But there will eventually be a winding down. And we must not let that part of the cycle become our enemy.

When I am faced with the ultimate decision about how I can best serve the animal I love so much, I try to set aside all the complications and rationales of what I may or may not understand medically, and I try to clear my mind of any of the confusions and ups and downs that are so much a part of caring for a terminally ill pet. This is hard to do, because for months and often years we have been in this mode of weighing hard data, labs, food, how many ounces did he drink, should he have his rabies shot or not, etc. But at some point it's time to file all of that away into the academic folder and open the spiritual folder instead. At that point we are wise to ask ourselves the question: "Does he want to be here today, to experience this day in this way, as much as I want him to?"

Remember, dogs are not afraid. They are not carrying anxiety and fear of the unknown. So for them it's only about whether this day holds enough companionship and ease and routine so that they would choose to have those things more than anything else and that they are able to focus on those things beyond any discomfort or pain or frustration they may feel. How great is his burden of illness this day, and does he want/need to live through this day with this burden of illness as much as I want/need him to? If I honestly believe that his condition is such, his pleasures sufficient, that he would choose to persevere, then that's the answer and we press on.

If, on the other hand, I can look honestly and bravely at the situation and admit that he, with none of the fear or sadness that cripples me, would choose instead to rest, then my obligation is clear. Because he needs to know in his giant heart, beyond any doubt, that I will have the courage to make the hard decisions on his behalf, that I will always put his peace before my own, and that I am able to love him as unselfishly as he has loved me.

After many years, and so very many loved ones now living on joyously in their forever home in my heart, this is the view I take. As my veterinarian, who is a good and loving friend, injects my precious one with that freedom elixir, I always place my hand on top of his hand that holds the syringe. He has chosen a life of healing animals and I know how terribly hard it is for him to give up on one. I want to shoulder that burden with him. The law of my state says the veterinarian is the one licensed to administer the shot, not I. But a much higher law says this is my ultimate gift to my dog and the responsibility that I undertook on the day I welcomed that dog into my life forever.

- Hilary Brown, VetPet Partners